Really? Like Really? A word or a phrase that has become a huge part of my current speaking vocabulary. It can mean so many different things depending upon the inflection that is used.
When I want someone to know what I am actually saying is truth or fact , I say really. I also use it to emphasize things such as Brandon, you really need to take the trash out.
I get the most usage out of the word really when I react to people, places and events that have the potential to cause me to feel surprised, upset, angry, anxious, doubtful or fearful. You know what I mean. ”Mom, I just got rear ended,…Really? are you ok?” “Honey I invited everyone for a BBQ tonight…Really you’re kidding me.” ” All lanes are blocked…Really? Not again.” You’re dad is in the hospital, don’t worry….Really? What’s wrong?” ” I’m pregnant….Really?” ” We see a lump…Really? How big?” The list goes on and on. I am sure you can read between the lines and hear all of the possible angst that the word really is bringing up for me.
With 5 “adult” children between my husband and I, a son in law, 2 boyfriends, 2 step-grand kids, a baby on the way, 3 dogs, a cat, a home, 2 personal businesses, extended family and friends, I/we have many really moments. Many of these moments feel like they come one after or the other, or even all together. So many possibilities for emotional chaos. Not really how I want to live my life.
I decided to change the way I do really because it was really getting in the way.
I really looked at my energy, vibration, whatever you call it when really moments came my way. It wasn’t pretty, nor was it empowering at all.
I am glad to report the energy that I predominately use behind the word really is now vastly different than anger, fear, anxiety etc. Yes, there are times that those emotions are present, however I have focused on bringing forth healthy energy.
The energy of really is more like, here we go again, or it is what it is with amusement, lightheartedness and curiosity. The inflection in my voice takes on an uplifted lilt. I may even crack a joke. My eyes will meet my husbands and we will shrug our shoulders and say oh well. My energy of really takes on a go with the flow way of being. I now make an un-conscious choice to allow life to ebb and flow. I see that I can only control what I can control. It wasn’t always like this. I “really” had to consciously practice this way of being.
So now when really moments happen, and they will, look at your energy behind really. See that really can mean anything you want it to be.
